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H. Elizabeth Burke MA, Buddhist, Taoist and Hawaiian Insights, Wisdom, Prayers & Healing.
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What Really Divides Us? An Opportunity!

You may not know this, but I am a daughter of the American revolution. My family and ancestors fought for freedom, freedom of religion, freedom from taxation without representation and we fought for our right to express ourselves freely and be happy.  Abagail Adams was a Smith and Martha Washington’s sister married a Bassett. Both are my family names.

You might be wondering why  am I writing about this odd bit of personal history when I usually write about healing and transformational change.

First, I want to share that Pluto is in Capricorn, many of you may know this but did you know that the  last time Pluto was in Capricorn ( that rules government and business) was during the founding of this country and the American revolution.

Like now, there were  basically 2 distinct party lines of thought, one for a centralized government ( Hamilton and Adams)  and the other for more states rights (Jefferson & Madison). Then like now these forces pulled at each other in bitter and divisive infights that nearly destroyed our  fledgling democracy.

What is so frustrating for me is that we are doing it all over again. I realize that people are reactionary and in reactive states much of the time but we have a opportunity to change this. To move from reaction to response!

Decades ago, when I taught as a substitute teacher even my kindergarteners knew how to cooperate and get along better than the factionalized wings of  political groups we see expousing  their truth on talk shows and in the halls of government. Why all the hate when what we need is cooperation.

So let”s take this opportunity and say no to  extremes, to the tea party movement  (who I know that my ancestors would rolling in their graves  to hear this name used this way ) and to the factionalism that they preach and that is eroding any political goodwill and hope we once possessed.

We have an opportunity to move to another level, to a higher octave of this Pluto in Capricorn energy that is so relevant right now. We can rise above this kind of  divisive politics.

We must remember our commonality.

This commonality is key. We are all human beings, first. We all suffer and wish to be happy. This is what links us all  together!

We can all practice more openness and compassion and reach out our hands to one another in kindness instead of anger. I am not saying that we have to deny that we are mad as hell about what is going on in the world  but we have to at least try to soften our hearts and temper our anger with intelligence and open the conversation beyond the sound of our own voice.

This is where we have gone wrong I’m afraid…. we are not talking to each other we’re just flinging shit at each other, which accomplishes nothing. As the political season ramps up ask yourself , can I hold the and instead of the or in my heart? Can both positions exist simultaneously? My hope is yes . So the dialogue can begin not just sound bites ( that the masses latch onto ) but real discussion.

So I want everyone to take a deep breath, to move out of reaction and into a place of equanimity because if we don’t start matters will only get worse. I do not want to lose this precious democracy.

Let’s embrace our diversity and find a new path to move forward on. Please, please, please.

PS

Pluto in Capricorn will strip down and expose all forms of corruption and abuse of power. It is the nature of Pluto to illuminate the shadow and Pluto will be in Capricorn  that rules the sector of business, government, banking and finance. we have already seen this. And we have a choice and opportunity at this time. Government and politics will change during this process. We can move towards a new wholism like never before and heal this realm where there has been so much  tit for tat for way too long.  Pluto is fierce and it is relentless but it wants truth above all things.

A Question for you, is your life repeating are you going thru the sos again and again do you want to break free?

Do you feel like you are living your life like Bill Murray in groundhog day, going over the same issues again and again . Isn’t it frustrating the heck out of you . I sure know the feeling. recently my mom visited and I love her to pieces but it is amazing with all the inner work I have done how she can push my buttons and boom I am right back in it. Then I remember  “healer heal thyself” and dove into where I was feeling the pain sadness and tension in my body and and being.  And voila things began to change.

One simple technique I use comes from my training with Hawaiian shamans and it was really great to so the work on me. It is so necessary to stay clear in my work and this was a sure fire way to change the energy.

So if you are recycling  patterns that you want to change give me a call and let’s get t the bottom of them and  change them once and for all!  So, you can be free, confident, happy and less stressed!  That’s what we all want, right,  less stress and more peace with our family, relationships and within ourselves. Here’s to peace in our own lifetime! Call me 415 435-8015 or email me at info@healing origins.com

I work with clients from all over te US in person and by phone and have moved people beyond their problems for 20 + yrs. Much aloha,  Elizabeth

Why does he pull away, I just want to talk.

You know how when you are communicating with a partner, spouse or lover and it can sometimes feel like a tango, full of approach and avoidance?

You really want to talk with your beloved, you have something vital to say and you feel a lot of energy surrounding what you want to share with them. You all know the feeling, right? So, you find the perfect time to talk and you approach your partner and the dance begins.

You start the conversation and all of a sudden you feel him energetically back away and you wonder, why is he backing away why does the man I love, who loves and cares for me creating this distance between us? We all take this distancing to heart and feel hurt when in reality your partner is just maintaining his energetic comfort zone.

Think of it this way. Have you ever been in a line at the grocery store or bank and felt someone come up behind you, just a little bit too close for comfort. Or have you been in conversation, with someone new perhaps, who just comes in too close, who feels “in your face.”

What do you want to so when this happens? Me, I want to step back and re-establish a boundary between us, so I have my personal space back. This is fine but if you are frustrated within your relationship, because your spouse, partner or friend seems to be creating distance instead of intimacy, Here’s energy practice to try.

Instead of moving in or stepping forward to close that gap you feel between you-step back. That’s right, step back. I know, this sounds all wrong, even counter-intuitive, because you want to be closer, you want to get your point across or to share something really important with this person you are talking to.

You want to lean in. I know I’ve felt this way too but trust me, just try it, step back and see what happens. By stepping back you are increasing the energy and spatial distance between the two of you and the other person will sense this. They may even feel you are pulling away.

Sensing this, they will often step forward to maintain the customary energy field between you. They will come to you. And this is where the conversation can begin.

I have an image that might help you. Imagine that your two hands are people in a conversation. Place your hands at shoulder width apart about 10 inches, now move your right hand in 2 inches. What happens? The distance between your hands goes from 10 to 8 inches.

To maintain the same distance between your hands your left hand has to move back 2 inches, right? And each time your right hand moves forward 2 inches your left hand has to move back to maintain the 10 inches between you.

But what if you moved your right hand back 2 inches from the start? Instead of moving in, you step back, you create more space. Then right away your left hand has to move toward your right hand to keep the 10-inch distance between you.

Instead of feeling like distance is being created you experience the person you love coming towards you instead of going away or drawing back. There is power in holding your own space and respecting your partner’s energy field as well.

When I shared this exercise with a client, who had been married for nearly 20 years, she marveled at its simplicity. She called the next day and said when she tried it with her husband that night it was like talking to a new man.

She was amazed that he was so receptive. She shared that conversations had been fraught with difficulties for years and now everything was different. She felt more at ease too because she didn’t feel he was trying to avoid her. And she didn’t feel like she was doing all the work in the relationship. She felt happy, heard and connected again to the man she loved.

Try this simple yet affect exercise and see how the dynamics of your conversations with your loved ones and friends changes. Each client over the last ten years, that I have shared this with has been amazed at how different their conversations became. They experienced ease, openness and relaxation and felt less lonely, hurt, frustrated and anger as their partners began to waltz with them in conversation.

If you want to finally understand the energy dynamics within your relationships I know I can help you. Energy healing has been the focus of my work for 25 years. Everything is energy and when we uncover the dance of energies alive in our lives we can change almost anything that is affecting us and transform our lives.

I know I can help you if you really want to understand the energy dynamics within your relationships and urgently want to make change. I absolutely love working with relationships and unraveling the cause-effect relationships that are alive in your life.

Energy practices, and somatic therapy combined with intuitive and spiritual insights can help you see the big picture and bring harmony and healing to your relationships. Experience insight, empowerment and greater well-being as a result.